In the modern era of 2016, it ain’t cheap to be alive; it’s cheaper to buy booze than a coffee, mortgages span a lifetime and the temptation to sell your cat for groceries is remarkably high. If living costs are so exorbitant should those of us in relationships default to cohabitating? Or should we make more measured decisions around jumping with both feet into combining living with loving?
Of course the argument remains that if you are meant to be with someone then living with them at any stage of the game shouldn’t make or break the bond you have. Back in reality where subjective issues matter; like money, personal hygiene, sleeping patterns and interior decorating taste you’ve gotta seriously get it right otherwise you run the risk of going to gaol for manslaughter after you smother your loved one in their sleep for eating the rest of your pre-cut celery sticks without asking.
There’s plenty of disadvantages and advantages of living with your lover and every situation and partnership is wildly different. For the record I’ve done both.
In most relationships there usually comes a time when the issue of living together unravels naturally. You’re spending 6 nights out of 7 tucked into one another’s beds, or your lease is up, or it seems like an intelligent financial decision (you’ve already sold the cat for groceries) to combine household goods. In some ways making the decision not co-habitate seems odd, or like it goes against the grain, but for some couples it’s the only way they can maintain their sanity, independence and ultimately preserve their relationship.
Each couple is unique in their approach to the issue of real estate; some wish they had never moved in with their partner before they got married, others waited only weeks and never looked back and then there’s those few who waited for the ring before they shared a set of keys.
There’s a long list of pros & cons to both scenarios, here’s just a few:
Yours in broken crockery and melted candles