When you make things too easy for men; offer yourself on a silver platter wearing only lacy pink underwear, buy all of the drinks, or, make all of the first moves then it’s more than likely that their interest in you will subside just as easily. Without a challenge men simply get bored. After the initial thrill (and subsequent ego boost) that a babe is hitting on him dissipates, he’ll fall into complacency because you required no effort to woo in the first place.
So, for as long as you can manage – for EVER if this is possible, never remove the element of challenge between you and a man. Critically this enables you to maintain a sense of mystery, and to an extent, your sense of independence too.
Conditioning a man isn’t too dissimilar to training an animal (sorry, I really had to say it). If you teach a man from the very beginning that he needs to make effort to be with you then his competitive drive will remain engaged, he’ll stay interested and continue to believe that you are worth making effort for.
Most of my advice pertaining to men encourages you to take a simplistic approach and I realise that upon first read this may come across as more than slightly convoluted, but really it’s not. I am not encouraging you to complicate things or to play games. And you shouldn’t.
What you’re actually doing is nothing.
You’re just sitting back and waiting for the natural cause of events to unravel. Sure, say hi, smile, wear low cut tops and even perhaps initiate a conversation. Then, if your feminine charm is doing its thang, the boy is attracted to you, doesn’t have a girlfriend, likes women and isn’t a fuckwit then he will slowly start to try and work out what HE has to do to get you. This is excellent. And the beauty of it is that even as you see sparks starting to fly and little cupids shooting bows & arrows in the air, you still don’t have to do anything.
Just have faith that if this guy likes you then he will do all of the hard work for you. He will sweat and plan profusely and post progress videos on Instagram (hopefully not really) to show the effort that he’s putting in.
Games or not, always play responsibly when hearts and bodily parts are involved.
This is an excerpt from my upcoming book. Please do not reproduce without my explicit written permission.